Relationship problems

Everyone has them from time to time, reationship problems. Do you recognise that feeling? That your partner gets you so frustrated that you want to rip out your hear wandering why do things have to be so complicated.

One of the things that makes relationships so complicated is the difference between men and women. We can continue yelling at the world that there is no difference, but that still doesn’t makes it true. We are even, but we are not the same.

It’s hard to put your finger on it, because every individual is different and so you can’t say for example that women like talking. What you can say is that a lot of women like make-up and that a lot of men like cars, the stereotypes of gender. You can attach a lot of qualities to those stereotype, however you won’t find a single person that is exact like the image of a gender.

In my opinion, one of the most important differences between men and women is the will to talk. From the beginning of time women are complaining their boyfriends won’t open up to them and men nagging about those annoiing ’feeling talks’ their girlfriends want to have.

If I look to myself I see that very clear. I have friends I tell everything, really everything. We use to talk about our feelings, our dreams and our fears. I know these people every bit, and they know me. I like that, I like talking about my feelings, I like getting to know someone so good and I like them to know me. I like having filosophical conversations till deep in the night, I like to feel such a strong connection with a person.

Of course I don’t know if man feel this the same way, but from what I see I figured they don’t. Maybe they do open up to close friends, just not to us women, I can’t know that. I never met a man who wanted the connection with me that I have with friends. Of course a relationship is different from a friendship, but in my opinion a relationship should be more than a friendship. From this point of view lesbian relationships are very natural.

So now what? Just give up and become gay? No, ironically enough, my advise is to talk about it. Don’t expect your partner to change, but at leat let him or her know how you’re feeling about this, so he or she understands what’s going on. Your differences won’t just dissapear, but talking about it stops you from growing hate and anger inside yourself. I’m sorry boys, I think this is the only solution.